Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Little Boys and their Fears

My boys are the biggest chickens on earth. Honestly. They are terrified of everything. If their closet door is open, or if one of them is in the room alone, they freak out!

It's gotten worse the past few weeks. They now get up 10 - 12 times a night (each!), come into my room (or the living room if I'm still up with Parker) and they tell me that they had a nightmare. You would think after 10 times of hearing, "You're fine, go back to bed," they would *get* that I'm trying to sleep. But, nope. It continues every single night.

A few nights ago, we had a very lengthy discussion as to why they were scared. They couldn't give me anything in particular that they were afraid of, but they continued to tell me that it was because of the Veggie Tales song, "God is Bigger than the Boogie Man." Ok, now, that song is supposed to prevent kids from getting scared. Not my boys. Apparently, this song is the reason for all their nightmares. When I told them that there's no such thing as the Boogie Man, Jace told me that he's not afraid of the Boogie Man, because he brings you cheeseburgers. (LOL! Where did that come from?) So when I asked them what it was that they were afraid of, they couldn't tell me.

How do I handle this? Anyone have any advice or tips? Am I destined to be a mom to two little wusses? I don't want my kids being the ones picked on because they are terrified of everything, so what do I do to nip this in the bud now? Can I nip this before it gets any worse? Can it get any worse?

I've heard of the monster spray, but since they're not afraid of monsters and know that there's no such thing as monsters, they thought it was stupid that I was spraying stuff in their room. SIGH. I really can't win with these two.

So, help a mom out. What would you do?

1 Super Cool Replies:

Natalie said...

Gosh, I really don't have any advice on this one, Ang. I can honestly say that none of the boys have been that afraid of anything. Although, since we moved in this house, Alec has wanted the door partly open at night. I have no idea why. We have ALWAYS closed their doors all the way. It's just come from having the last 3 kids so close together. I would keep the other kid's door closed at night so that it wouldn't disturb them when I got up with the baby or when the baby cried. It just seems normal to me to keep it closed and keep as much noise out while they are trying to sleep, especially since in both houses all our bedrooms have been close together. And it has never been an issue before. But now every night as I tuck them in, Alec has to ask me, "Will you keep the door open a little?" And he knows I will, but he HAS to ask. Every single night. He hasn't given me a reason.

But, other than that, I haven't had to deal with this issue. And he doesn't get out of bed usually, either. One night he did recently, but after that he stayed in. So I really don't know.

I wouldn't really worry about them being sissies or anything. I mean, they're still 5 and 4...little kids. I cannot believe how much whining and crying my boys do. I think they can be just as dramatic as girls. And I already know Kyle is going to be tougher than Joey or Alec. That's just the way he's wired. But Joey will cry about doing homework, he cries about making a dumb decision or mistake, he cries when fun is over...and he's almost 10! And Alec is a crier, too. I just have to hope that they grow out of it!

 
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